Child to communicate with you, do it in different ways. We often think only in discussions and conversations we have with the children, their communication with us. However, their behavior is also very powerful form of communication. This is especially true when they are in an emotional state, which they can not find the words now. For this reason, it is a good idea for children and young people living and working to pay special attention to the behaviors they see, the children were in adults. To get to this point, you need to evaluate, monitor the interaction between the child and another person over time.
Use back-up copies of what you discuss books. If you have any books about it reinforce what you are trying to communicate, and vice versa, it gives you somewhere to fall as well as children realize that something evil is not only composed of the parents.
You know you've heard something correctly, when they feel understood. One way to do this is to repeat what you think you've heard of them back. They will be more clearly what they mean, if you think you are really interested in and try to understand them. Children also need to feel safe to share their thoughts without fear of court, shut down or cause an angry reaction. It is important to resist the argument and criticism. When there is disagreement, parents can say that it is a good object.
Children need to seek advice and direction, acceptance and encouragement of their parents. Responsible love to run and teach a great gift, we offer our children. They look to us to lead and approval. Approval of other loving acceptance and promotion of a joyful and create your unique personal strengths and title. It is our privilege to offer parents the level of security and love for their children.
This is why it is important to understand when we say our words are very important in our communication with their children. Timing is everything. Information, when you do not control their emotions, is a poor time suit. Hold your tongue, count to 10, and wait until you are calm. Sometimes parents are calm, but our children are not. Maybe they have a bad day, or they are frustrating the middle. Ask yourself if this is the best time to say what you mean.
Patience is a skill. All this is very time consuming. In addition, today's parents have very little to scarce goods. Although you can assess your child's feelings and opinions, time and patience, parents can limit the ability to hear, "what is to be heard." Can you listen to the account, and store away your child's opinion and comments, can you allow when you try to share their views ?
Is the story you refer your child to want to imitate them and produce their own life as a constant model. Remember, children learn more, for example, they are not what we tell them to do.
If you do not like history, you are presenting, it is never too late to change course and start to communicate better with their children. Your choice will become your habits of children and their habits of these characters will be built.